THe story below was taken from valerie's multiply... haha... val, val... good timing for such a post.. I found it very interesting... and quite true... for ppl that have experienced it then lets just say I think you know it very well...

"I once had a friend who grew to be very close to me.

Once when we were sitting at the edge of a swimming pool, she filled the palm of her hand with some water and held it before me, and said this:

"You see this water carefully contained on my hand? It Symbolizes Love."

This was how I saw it:
As long as you keep your hand caringly open and allow it to remain there, it will always be there. However, if you attempt to close your fingers round it and try to posses it, it will spill through the first cracks it finds.

This is the greatest mistake that people do when they meet love...they try to possess it, they demand, they expect... and just like the water spilling out of your hand, love will retrieve from you. For love is meant to be free, you cannot change its nature. If there are people you love, allow them to be free beings.

Give and don't expect.
Advise, but don't order.
Ask, but never demand.

It might sound simple, but it is a lesson that may take a lifetime to truly practice. It is the secret to true love.
To truly practice it, you must sincerely feel no expectations from those who you love, and yet an unconditional caring."

very true story.... i for one encountered this... and realised that once the water has sipped through your fingers back into the pool... you will never be able to get back the same water which you once had in your palms... though there will always be droplets of the water that you once held... sigh.... if only there was a way of finding it back....

good story though....

tanx to val for given a "silence is consent" approval to me to use this post...